I want a belly-button job because dd2 wrecked it when I was pregnant with her (she was a big baby) and I got what looks like a scar above my navel.
It looks bad enough that even doctors mistake it for abdominal surgery - therefore I have said to H when I go through the menopause and can no longer give birth, I will have cosmetic surgery to fix it.
This is nothing to do with him or impressing him - it's just something I want to do, to feel good about ME.
Apart from anything else, you ARE divorced. I know it hurts, I've been in tears myself today, but you really can't control what she does and by saying 'I will not pay bills because of this surgery' - that is like a 'punishment' for her for doing something you don't like.
If you don't want to pay bills because you're divorced, fair enough, you don't have to. But don't have that as a reason why. That's a mind game and isn't fair.
I totally understand why you feel threatened though. I don't want my H to get anyone else either.
There are dozens of things we can no longer take part in and we just have to let that go and try not to louse up the stuff we CAN take part in, otherwise we will just drive ourselves insane.
