Quote: She also asked if we'd like to get a family pass, noting once again that "you don't have to be married, they never check that." I thanked her for taking him and said I was glad they had a great time, and asked her for the cost before saying sure. Interestingly, in our M, she'd never have wanted me near a waterpark due to her jealousy (her view: too many tempting women in bikinis; my view: I'm loyal, its 99% kids,and I'm not into kids!). Either she truly doesn't care about my attraction to others now post-D, or she is trying to loosen up. Not sure.
A couple of observations/thoughts pop into my mind.
I think what's really going on is that W is just leaving the door open for family activities for the 3 of you. Dude, go through the door! Hell, we'll pass the hat here and help cover the cost of the pass!
Something else occurs to me that I'm going to throw out for your consideration.
One of my SO's complaints about my past behavior was my overanalyzing. I'm finally coming to learn that that is really a defense mechanism for me. With that knowledge, it is becoming easier for me to just live in the present, just "be", and not get all bent about how this or that is going to effect the future, what happened in the past, etc.
Might it be possible, with your background, that you may slip into this sometimes?
I guess what I'm trying to say is don't worry about what something means and just accept what is.
