"Remember, her crap is not your crap. That's your new mantra!"
I'm borrowing that, please.
I wanted to bring up something I'm sure will spark debate; but we are fortunate enough here to have open and honest discussion I believe benefit everyone.
I've been thinking about unconditional love and boundaries. Letting someone do what they want and setting limits for themselves is not necessarily giving unconditonal love. I love the woman I was with for almost 12 years, we had children together, a past and I thought a future. I told her I always have and always will love her. She says she does not believe this. This is her choice. Did I tell her and show her in the way she needed? Apparently not. But there will always be a place in my heart for her. But this not mean I give her free reign now. I certainly did earlier on and it didn't help the situation or me.
Love is about setting boundaries and limits. I love my children MORE than anything. There is nothing I would not do for them. But they do not do as they please, though some days it seems this way. I set rules and limits and boundaries for them. Just as we do with everyone we deal with in life. We have internal rules with how we deal with coworkers, friends, neighbors, people in traffic. This is for our own sanity more than anything.
My thoughts. Any resemblence to any person living or dead is purely coincidental.
