Two days ago, W had said she wanted S5 to be picked up earlier so that he'd have no afterschool care (1 hr earlier). She said yesterday that she had failed to do so due to work stuff. Today, I headed out at the usual time to pick up S5, as I was trying to negotiate s/t difficult with my supervisor. When I was 5 min away from his schook, his teacher called asking when I was planning to pick him up, and W called my cell asking in a huff "What happened? I thought we agreed...?". I responded calmly but pointedly, "Did you pick him up on time yesterday?" When she went on trying to prove my wrongness, I just said, "I've gotta go. Bye." and hung up.
Not sure why, but W has been in a negative funk lately. Its very hard to have a PMA and to keep things light when she's frowning and circling. I imagine that she and MIL are thinking up new 'sins' of mine - likely related to her recent purchases and likely consequential financial shortfalls.
At dropoff today, when she commented about watching S5 equally during his weeks off from school, I said. "As I understand it, you are the primary residence parent. I am more than willing to watch him a bit more that I'm signed up to, but I've committed to work enough to pay for my financial obligations, including to you. I won't be able to do that and watch him half the time." When she pointed out her work pressures as well, I merely validated, saying "I know you are stressed at work, too."
Things are probably going to take a frosty, negative turn for a bit.
I am really puzzled by her negative mood lately. Its the worst it has been in a long time, nearly since the Fall. I'm wondering if she's found me on this BB or if she was in another R that fell thru, or if it is her financial reality that is kicking in.
The only two possible screw-ups related to this were: 1) a short Mother's Day note (not even a card) that included the following that may be seen as pursuing?:
Quote: Know that when I see his face or look into his eyes, I see you. When I think of him, you also are in my thoughts. When he bobs his head in rhythm to music in my truck, I see you in my periphery. When he laughs a certain way, I hear you. When he runs with me on the beach, I see your stride. When I hold his hand as we walk down a street, I feel yours. You allowed God to bless me so by marrying me over nine years ago, and furthered that blessing through the birth of our son.
The second was a brief letter addressed to both of us from one of my aunt's who knew us, stating that all M's have problems, as did hers, and that she hoped we could work things out. I opened it and read it, leaving it for her.
Any comments/whacks/opinions? This post-D DBing is tough, and I imagine that pursuit is that much more dangerous. Anyway, I'd like your input.
Looking at the calendar, it is getting close to her PMS onset was well (hers is a doozy usually), and she did just start a semester. I asked her if everything was okay last night, and she said that she was merely tired.
This post-D DBing is tough, and I imagine that pursuit is that much more dangerous. Anyway, I'd like your input. 
