Wes, this is a good question. I think Bulldogr has the right take on things:
Quote: I'd rather give acts of unconditional love, expect nothing in return and sleep better b/c I'm loving the guy I'm becoming. I'm loving myself. If that doesn't foster a change of opinion in W, Man, that's okay b/c I'll be better off and someday I'll meet someone who really values the person I am.
I think W does have some growing to do, but I will never leave the woman I love and the mother of my son hanging. She's setting limits when she seems to need to. I'll try to leave it at that. Usually, when I begin to feel hopeless or frustrated, its usually related to me slipping in terms of self-care.
I appreciate all of you chiming on on this, Dogman, Wes, Kevin. Kev, I especially liked your connecting the dots for me b/t the D and the WAS's curiosity/need for consistency in the LBS.
