My comments, for what it is worth. We have to be better at setting boundaries, I know I was not at first. I believed if I was nice to her, she might reciprocate. Turns out it does not work that way.
In their mind, nothing has changed, they can still come and go as they please and do what they want and we say ok.
Someone on another post made a good comment. Treat this person as if they were someone new you were interested in. You wouldn't let this person come into your house when you weren't there or drive your car or support them.
It seems to me, I know I am guilty of it, we are WAY TOO nice to the WAW, thinking they will see how wonderful and loving and giving and caring we are. But what they see is someone who gives in and does not have confidence in themselves.
I'm sure intially, the WAW will react negatively, I know mine did, but all you can be is consistent and honest with them and yourself.
