Yes, the first time I think I've ever been first on a new thread.
Gabriel, sounds like you've got a great attitude. That little piece of paper wasn't so bad was it? I have the same impression as you...the D seems necessary to relieve some of the tension. I percieve it as "if he/she is still this way after divorce then these changes must not have been solely to get me back". You are doing great...I'm glad the coparenting is going well.
My question to you....Do you think it is absolutely necessary to set boundaries and completely cut the cord in terms of supporting your ex-wife? Is continuing to be helpful, loving, and supportive moving you closer to your goals? I know you have to look out for yourself and you definitely can't let your goals at work slide just to appease your ex, but can you juggle otherwise being there for her?
In my sitch...I've signed off on the papers and should have that finalized sometime pretty soon. BUT, nothing has changed in terms of boundaries from the time she first moved out. She can still get into the house and still has the car that should be mine after D. I haven't established any of those boundaries and even when the papers say it's official I'm just not sure I can right away. She hasn't actually had to feel what D will be like. Do you think in our situations that we should? That helping out, supporting, and just being there is detrimental to our chances?
Gabe, come check out my latest and give me your read. Our sitches sound similar and I'm not too far behind you in terms of D.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
