Brief review: Me: 37 W: 34 5yr Son Separated since 10/28/04. Signed D Papers 3/24/05 D finalized 5/2/05.
Saw definite improvements in R, babysteps in my sitch, yet D was unavoidable w/ W seemingly needing to finish things to prove herself right.
Positives include: W is Definitely interested or curious, with unsolicited daily contact and increased friendliness. Other positives: No OP for either of us, W in therapy and starting to exercise, stable at work, W commenting about her free weekends to me, and us co-parenting frequently and positively, with both of us keeping S5 as a very high priority. I have bought W out of our house, and have no remaining financial debt to share with her. She's renting from me until August or so.
Negatives: She hasn't yet experienced the fullness of D yet, pulling for loose boundaries that include notable support from me, especially in the area of parening and finances.
This thread will follow my attempts to stay focused on our R and my GAL work, realizing that friendship with W is primary goal. I'm attempting to stay unconditionally loving in a detached manner, focusing on S5 and myself, while I hope that, with God's grace and my and W's hard self-work, that she and I heal enough for us to have a second chance at some point.
I truly look forward to renewing our vows - but only when the time is right.
