First thing, please understand that I'm not about to suggest that you forget that you have a healthy SD (I too am the HD im my M, so I see your side all too well); nor am I about to suggest that you don't need to relax a bit (I too am gone for 11 hours a day fortunately two of those are at least on a commuter train). THAT SAID:
Quote: The commute is pretty bad so after being gone for 11 hours I tend to want to relax a bit and I probably could help out more.
Quote: Also, I don't think I had the intention of using the anonymous sexpartner site (adultpersonals.com i believe) to actually make dates or anything like that.
Lay off the adult personal sites as they can be too tempting for an unsatisfied HD spouse. I speak from experience as I had myself shredded a Christmas card and long letter from an old flame. No I didn't have an affair, but the idea (at the time) was not out of the question. Bottom line: Spend your online time looking for something closer. As you are employed, you have the option of turning down sucky offers.
Quote: The frequency right now is around once every 6-8 weeks.
Some here would actually envy that--believe it or not. No, I'm not suggesting that you settle for that.
Consider reading SSM cover-to-cover so that you'll see the other side and at least realize that her disinterest is not due to lack of affection (not an easy notion for me to drop).
