Re-read SSM cover-to-cover. It will at least help you to see your H's side. Full Disclosure: I am the HD in my M and the LD section helped me understand some of my W's concerns.
Anyway try to understand the your H (in all likelihood) did not get married to be celibate--that's what monasteries are for.
I agree that he should give you a bit more help around the house. DR has a chapter on asking for what you want. Consider a copy of that.
Quote: There are many wise, empathetic and funny people here. [To all of you: you are my buddies, the friends I can discuss things with that I don't talk about with my friends in RL (real life). In this society where everyone is supposed to be thinking about sex all the time someone with LD is often embarassed to admit they feel differently.]
At the risk of hijacking DGA's post, glad to help. Of course, hearing from LD's has helped me to better see the other side.
*Great Big Smiles* There is an over the counter "Rejuvex" that has some B vitamines and herbs. It worked for a couple gals I know. But get Mr WOW to keep your motor running well. Warming oils, Back rubs...Try not having sex but being sexual.
Pity me that the heart is slow to learn
What the swift mind beholds at every turn.
Edna St. Vincent Millay
Thank you for showing me this article... I am in the process of reading it now, and I will get back with my opinion later.. However...
I have read the first few paragraphs and already feel it!!
This lady that we saw was just letting us talk week after week with NO solutions. She looked at me on the third visit and asked me what I was going to do about whatever it was my husband had just said, and I told her that's what I was paying her for... she said she wasn't there to give me answers.... ?????????? What? $130 an hour, and she wasn't there to give me answers???
She repeated often that we would never work out; she pitied him for his lack of sexual activity, and told me I had just better do something about it. But what? That was what I thought we were there for, so she could provide suggestions/answers!! Oh, yeah.. she also suggested that he just get me drunk and basically suggested that he take advantage of me then.
I'll continue reading this article... forwarded the link to the hubby too....
oh, thanks! Sorry, some of the lingo used can be confusing.... Just in response to everyone's suggestions, I am open for anything!!! That's maybe part of the problem also, I am very open with my sexuality and DGA is not. This makes discussing it not easy.
You are right sweetie, I'm not comfortable talking about things like this... It is embarrassing to me. And I am not as open as you are to experimentation.. that makes me super uncomfortable!
(But I love you sooooooooooo!!!!)
