Quote: And honestly, sex NEVER crosses my mind! I NEVER feel an urge, interest or anything. I don't find it distasteful. Yeah, getting the motor running IS the hard part. I simply don't even feel like starting! ... Looking for a therapist who is also ABS certified within our area now.
A few questions
Are you at home during the day or do you work outside the home? If at home, you may have more control over your schedule and how busy you do or don't need to be.
Do you have a child or children still at home? If so, is there conflict over children?
Does MBing help you feel some desire? (If so you might schedule a session everyday, sort of like making sure to brush your teeth and shower.)
In any case, you sound like a well-organized task-oriented person. In that case, you might try putting sex with your H into your personal calendar.
Is there a frequency you can both agree on?
But you and he need to stop fighting or you will probably "put out" resentfully.
Perhaps he needs to join in on some of the house and yard tasks with you?
Re ABS certified - I hadn't heard of that designation before. Do you know how it compares with AASECT?
Thanks, Doglover
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