There is a toy at a "sex shop" that you might try. its refered to as a butterfly...basically its a small item that lays over the clitoris that is triggered to "buzz" once in a while. Some times theyre remote/radio controlled.

My suggestion might be, without telling H, use this toy on and off when youre at home to see how you react. If you think it might work, give him the control and see if he can "push your buttons"...

I know this works when two ppl are on the same page sexually but I'm not sure if it would work in your sit.

There's a tape.."Unlocking the secrets of the G spot" that may help you. BTW has sex ever been enjoyable to you? That could be why you are blahsey to it.

Pity me that the heart is slow to learn What the swift mind beholds at every turn. Edna St. Vincent Millay