Hi DGA (& Hubby if you're reading)!

Ok...first thing I want to say is to your H...READ THE WHOLE BOOK!!! It's invaluable as far as giving you a good perspective of how she's feeling as an LD...and this is something you need in order to be able to work with her on this.

Now for you DGA Something that I did when it came to couseling that I have found really is working for us is this...I called SEVERAL therapists offices and asked for a brief (5 min) interview on the phone with them. Some of them didn't care for that, but the one I picked gave me her time...listened, gave me some feedback....told me what her approach was (when I asked) and when I told her that we wanted to save our marriage and make it better...committed to helping us do that. So she was very aware that we didn't want out. She even commented to me later that she thought what I did was very smart. The right therapist for you two is crucial...there are some really iffy ones out there.

You sound MUCH like my LDH in the fact that it takes quite a bit of me "prepping" him to get his motor running...you know what that's ok. Some people are simply like that....BUT if you know you are this way, then you can make a concious choice to do things that you know will eventually get your motor running. In that aspect it is a choice...my H is struggling with this right now too, but he's making progress and slowly things are changing.

Also Hubby...this will not be fixed overnight, there is no fast cure here....this takes work from BOTH of you.

Gotta run for now,
GEL

Well behaved women rarely ever make history!