I'm HD, so take anything I say with a grain of salt. I'm still struggling to understand my LD wife. We did have a good run of nookie a few months ago that was precipitated by communication brought about by a WWME weekend. What the communication did was let us each glimpse what the other was going through and let us work toward doing the things that made the other feel loved. My W did take the just do it approach Michelle espouses in her book (although she didn't read the book), which helped me out and seemed to bootstrap her desire a little. I think she might have gotten a little burnt out on it though.
What would happen if you just made the sex a priority, you know force yourself to think about it and initiate? What can your H do for you (ie, what is your LL, and how can he change to better fill your love tank). If both of you are being fulfilled, the theory is that it makes it easier for you to step out of your comfort zone to fulfill your mates needs.
