Ok...so can you give us more info then? Your reply did answer my questions, but you offered no additional info. Gotta tell you....that truly reminded me of my LDH. I had to DRAG stuff out of him.
I'm not saying you are withholding info (really I'm not)...you may have just been in a rush when you posted...but just in case you are afraid/ashamed/embarrassed whatever to post things on here...keep in mind you are annonymous, and the things you are afrad etc to talk about are often the key to the problem.
Here's some info on my LDH. He used to say sex NEVER crossed his mind (reminds me of what you said)...I eventually came to find out, it did cross his mind, just not at convenient times....or he'd think about having sex w/me when I wasn't around...kind of like "oh yeah, I'd like to do that later"...then never mention it to me, and sort of forget about it, he always had more important things to take care of...than me. His SD is slowly coming to life...but he's having to learn to recognize those little sexual urges that he became so accustomed to ignoring or stifling, and therefore he truly did think he NEVER thought about it.
I'm not saying this is the case with you...but it's possible. Let me ask you this...is the thought of having sex w/your H distasteful to you or are you able to get into ML w/him once things get going? My H is someone who in the past has had to have me get EVERYTHING going....once he got into it everything was fine, getting his motor running was the hard part.
I do want you to know though, his SD IS coming to life...but it's taken lots of work from both of us. Lots of understanding from me, lots of being very blunt about how the lack of physical touch has affected me in many ways from me and lots of learning to recognize things he'd learned to stifle for so long...from him.
If you are willing to work on this you and your H have such an advantage compared to many couples...especially if he is willing to work with you.
Please correct me if I'm wrong...I'm just going to give an impression here of what I read...but your tone in your post (when I read it anyway) sounds angry. Are you angry about this or truly desperate to work on this? If you are angry, why?
