2Much- do you think that by being too tentative, you're making H uncomfortable?
Hmmm, I never thought it that way. Maybe? I am not sure that I am being too tentative, or at least not enough so that H would notice. This past week, I have been just doing what I want or would have done when we first started dating. When he tells me he is leaving, I go up and kiss him and give him little hug. Then I say goodbye...there is no asking, like I was doing before. So, I am working on making things as comfortable and normal as possible. He seems pretty comfortable with what I have been doing this week too, so thats a positive sign.
I think he is fine with being aroung the family, like I said, the only one who knows is my sister and we were just there for couple days over Christmas time and he seemed pretty comfortable around them. It all comes down to him having to make the decision to be with me instead of his friends for one day. That is the one thing he still struggles with. Where I put our M first before anything, he still seems to make his friends his first priority. He is getting a little better, and hopefully will see why it is so important to put us first, but that will have to be something he discovers on his own. I tried for 4 years to get him to realize that, but of course I could not do it. Plus me telling him didnt work at all!! God knows men dont like to be told what to do!!
So, I am fine with whatever decision he makes about the 4th. Yea, I might be sad if he doesnt come, but I wont let him see it. I will just be understanding. Obviously, pressuring him right now is not a good idea...not when things seem to be going so well...and its all been on his time...
