Geez Tessa, could you be my long lost twin???? I did all those things you did too. I think it was a lot of those things that contributed to the EA. Sucks when I have to admit that...but its the truth!!

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However, here's a thought. You mention that "if he really does care, and sees how much it means to me, he would come". I think, and it's just my opinion, that line of thinking is setting you up for a disappointment. Because if he doesn't go, then the next assumption is that he doesn't care. And maybe, IF he doesn't go, his reason has nothing to do w/how he cares about you. For example, if this would be the first time with your family since your sitch began he may feel very uncomfortable and have a difficult time facing them. (I say this because I know it is an issue for my H). That has nothing to do w/his caring for you and everything to do w/his guilt and not being ready to make that step yet.




Yes, I think you are right...I am setting myself up for diappointment by saying that. But I do know that if H knows that something really means a lot to me, he will do it for me. This isnt the first time he has been with my family, he was with them over Xmas and I dont think that would be why he wouldnt go. The only one in my family that even knows about the EA, is my sister.

Well, I did ask him this morning....it went like this:

ME: "I was just thinking and thought I would throw this idea out there, that my whole family is going to be together on the 4th and thought maybe you could come down for the day to spend with us."

H: Funny look on his face...."How would I get there?" (I will have the car)

Me: "You could use your moms truck our sisters car. Its up to you if you want to come or not. You could just come up the night before and stay that day and then go back, so just one day."

H: "We'll see."

....and I left it a that....will not bring it up again, until H does. Did I do ok???

Positives:
1. Gave H kiss on cheek yesterday b4 he left..he was fine with it.
2. Parent asked H if he had fun on his trip(family reunion) and he said yes, but glad to be home!
3. H and I watched movie last nite and he let me hold his hand.
4. In bed, H put hand on my leg!