Quote: Ok, Im sure some of you think I am such a freak...getting all excited bcuz I am giving the affection, instead of H giving it, but the fact that he is accepting it, is a big thing!!
I completely understand. To have my H go from resisting any affection from me to being accepting of it definately felt good. I'm so happy for you that he is being receptive!
Quote: BEFORE the EA and the IMILWY, I would pretty much tell H what I wanted and if he didnt do it, I would guilt him into it.
I would do the same thing except I would go even further to throwing a temper tantrum. Very immature of me.
Quote: I would just like to suggest it, explain my reasons why and then just let him decide. Does that sound good??? If he does really care and sees how much it would mean to me, he would come, right? I know, I should not have any expectations, because then I just get hurt. But I think we are at a place now, where he should be doing things that he knows matter to me.
I agree that offering to him your request is perfectly fine.
However, here's a thought. You mention that "if he really does care, and sees how much it means to me, he would come". I think, and it's just my opinion, that line of thinking is setting you up for a disappointment. Because if he doesn't go, then the next assumption is that he doesn't care. And maybe, IF he doesn't go, his reason has nothing to do w/how he cares about you. For example, if this would be the first time with your family since your sitch began he may feel very uncomfortable and have a difficult time facing them. (I say this because I know it is an issue for my H). That has nothing to do w/his caring for you and everything to do w/his guilt and not being ready to make that step yet.
Well, that's just a thought. Enjoy the rest of your week. TJ
