What I have been doing different is being patient, having no expectations and allowing for separateness.
I just finished reading book "This Is How Love Works" by Steven Carter. Very good book..I recommend it to anyone! The last chapter focuses on the last secret for keeping your love going. Its called "Allow for separateness" Here are what allowing for separateness DOES mean: 1. Giving up control --I have been doing that 2. Giving yourself permission to be separate -- I am working on this 3. Taking time to care for yourself -- I have really been focusing on this one. 4. Learning to be alone -- well last year during EA, I had no choice but to learn to be alone..and now I am fine with it. 5. Allowing your partner to be a whole person -- I have done this one too...letting H be who he is and not try to change him. 6. Allowing yourself to be human -- I an working on this one too... 7. Learning to trust -- Big one for me...I have always had hard time trusting people and now with EA having happened, you would think it would be worse, but I have come to realize its when I DONT trust is when I smother and things go bad...so I DO trust my H.
