Just getting back to my other suggestion on your sitch:
Quote: Define what a marriage full of love is?
To me a marriage full of love is placing the needs of the other person in front of your own personal needs. To feel loved through overt acts as well as those more subtle. Touching is huge for me, it allows for physical contact that lets the person know that you are there. Hearing a true ILY and the actions that show that. The abilty to find comfort in your day in the company of your Spouse.
Quote: Are the basics being met before the others can take place.
In my case maybe, she is still my W, she is at home, she is trying to please me, she is there physically (not always mentally). I am there physically and menatally though not needed by W (here words). I try and see every actions possible consequence. I need to get back to the "as if" position and just let it flow.
Quote: If our S were seriously hurt and incapable of physical affection (hugging, kissing, ML) would we abandon them?
I agree here with you. But in my case it is my LL. It is hard to see my W have no interest in me that way. It is a crushing blow at times to not feel desired or attractive to her. What I need to be able to do is find another LL to speak with her. I only wish I knew hers.
The abandonment of my mental need to be acknowledged is very hard and I am not sure it is possible. How can you ignore that which is so important ot a person. I believe this is where the "as if" attitude comes in. Just to continue to act as if nothing is wrong in M and focus on the positives. Much harder for you in your sitch. Hopefully, in time, all will be able to work out.
Through honest giving of my love I will recieve 10 fold in return.
Just because a person does not love you in the way you want, does not mean they do not love you!
