That is a relief to hear that you are still employed, that would just add stress to your life that is already stressing you out. I have those days too that I don't really like my job but latly things have been going great.
Take it from me on the counseling thing it is something that HE has to deside on not anyone else. I would try not mentioning anything about getting him into couseling for a while and see how that works but if you have not contact with him that should not be a problem.
I would start over and do what was working. But communucate with him what you were trying to do, maybe he will understand why you were giving him the silent treatment.
One more thing to remember that DBing is for you and no one else, to make you a better person, and to look at your life with different eyes.
