Quote: How do I get to a different tunnel?????????????? It sounds so easy to change tunnels. NOT.
Yes finding another tunnel is hard but you need to see what is wrong with the tunnel you are in right now. To me it seems like you still are not able to talk to your H about money, right. The fact that you are not living together and that you have your own wants and needs. You need to change your mind set to I need to think about me first and no one else right now, that really helped me when things were really bad.
I will tell you the thought process that I had. I was getting paid everyother week I was taking only 600.00 of my almost 900.00 check and putting it into our joint checking account, the other 300.00 was going to my take care of me fund. Some was getting stashed so if I needed money for a lawyer reatiner I would have it and the other was going for me to GAL. Whether it was for D and I to go to a movie or for me to just get out of the house for a night. Also I was making sure that the bills that were in my name were the ones that were getting paid on time and I did though make sure that I was covering half of the household expenses like the house payment and the utlities minus the cable (I can live without that). So basicly I was taking care of me first, D second and H third. I think that is the stand that you need to try and take with your H. And if you do get the car for your H DO NOT let him put it in his name espcially if you are buying it for him, if your M does end that is your asset not his, just CYA on this. If he gets angry let him, but you may be surprised what happens. When you talk to him about the car Act As If, you already know that it is OK with him that the car will be in your name and not his. I know easier said than done, as is everything with DR.
