faithandhope (sorry for the hijack!),

I'm reading a book called "Self Coaching" that you might find interesting and helpful...

Self-Coaching on Amazon

I think it's great that you see that you need to change your thought processes in order to have a lasting positive impact on your M. And good for your h for being open with you.

Sage

Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.