I am not one to give advice, but i think it has to do with expectations. It is so against everything to be starting over. It is hard not to fall back into old habits, or to have trust issues. We want everything to be perfect, and even though we can rebuild, it takes a very long time to be in a place where we can be normal again.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
