I understand what you are saying...one of my friends who is in the same situation I am has had affairs, and has pretty much blatantly urged me to as well. The other friend has flirted with disaster by staying in contact w/her ex who she knows is interested in her still, although she never did do anything other than e-mail and talk on a friend-level...the temptation was still there. I won't lie...I've been tempted too, I had someone pursue me with the intent of taking me from my H. Two of my very dearest friends that I told about this, never said "don't do it!"....they told me "well....who could blame you?" To them it was a natural outcome of the events.
I however....didn't do anything and broke off all contact with the person pursuing me.
I think all Jenny was trying to say is that cheating, in our circumstances, is something that some people would expect would happen. That doesn't mean it should and it doesn't mean it's right by any means.
I, for one, am someone who would end my R before I would have an affair....but it was interesting that my friends did seem to be urging me to have one, fortunately my personal beliefs are stronger than some of my outside influences.
