I DID divorce him. On grounds of 'unreasonable behaviour'.
He left me, but I divorced him.
I phoned him a few days after he left and told him I was filing for D. He flipped out and accused me of throwing our M down the drain even though he left. So I didn't file.
Then we had dd4 so he told me not to file. He said he wanted to reconcile when she was 5 weeks old. Changed his mind a month later.
I filed in October 02 but heard nothing for weeks. My lawyer then wrote to him asking where the D papers were. He said he had them but didn't want to return them. He was then threatened with criminal prosecution because the papers were property of the court and they classed it as stealing. He then returned them but unopened and unsigned.
I asked him again, did he want a D and he said 'let's wait and see' so I stopped the papers.
January 03, after court involvement, I re-started D papers. Told him, expecting him to be pleased. He flipped out and said I 'stabbed him in the back'.
Papers again get served at his house, he again sends them back unsigned. I asked him again, do you really want to end this R and he said, I never said I wanted a D, you did. But generally you live together if you're not having a D, don't you?
So I left the papers again. Then his mother emails him and tells him to D me - he goes mad and tells her we are not getting a D, we will move to the sea.
We reconciled and made plans to move house to the sea, like he said. Several months later after the loss of a baby, he changes his mind again so I file for D again.
He still doesn't sign but it goes through because of 2 year separation. Decree nisi is through in August 04, decree absolute in December 04.
That is why we weren't divorced until last Christmas.
