I'm sorry about how rough it was to think about DD4 going away for so long. That would be hard. I am starting to learn about that 'being left behind' experience.
Try setting up some nice plans for yourself during that time - not just work but selfcare and social outings (don't spend the time alone, okay).
When he picks you up on Sat, do your best to act "As-If" he was being wonderful and the sitch was excellent. This will help you to be positive during the outing. H is telling you that he'd like to put the past in the past. Its wise to consider his actions more heavily, but note the appropriate actions clearly if he does as he promises. If this happens, do try to join him on that letting go of the past.
With such sizable hurts in your R with him, Jo, it will be a sizable part of the chance for a new healthy R with him. Both of you have to let the past go.
