A small update, as I saw him but not for very long.
This morning I went to the IVF clinic to do a full family and medical history which took an hour and I thought they were going to refuse me because of the pelvic disorder I suffer with, but the dr said that was okay, he would just operate with me under general anasthetic.
I then had to have 7 blood tests - I felt faint when the nurse walked in with these 7 vials but luckily she only had to needle stick me once and got all the blood out from 1 site.
Apparently I will have to inject myself every day for 12 days when the time comes and they are going to train me so I can do it at home.
They blood tested me for HIV, Hep B, a whole load of other STD's and this type of anemia which is only got by Greek people (lucky me) so I had to have 1 extra blood test than the British donors.
Then she gave me these forms and on it is a page where you can write a message for the child created by your egg - except I don't have a clue what to write. He will be reading my message when he's 18. It's the only communication I will ever have with him so I want to get it right.
What would you want to know about your genetic mother if that was you? I can't think of anything profound. I have brought the forms home with me to think about what I can write.
They have arranged for me to see an ethics counsellor as they need my consent for how they use any embryos. I told them there was no way they would be allowed to thaw out any of the frozen embryos as this is like abortion to me and I can't stand the idea. They accepted this.
I now have to wait for the results of my blood tests and assuming they are all okay, I will then have to go in for the next phase, which will be the counselling and a trans-vaginal camera to see my ovaries.
They have to match me by looks and blood type to the parents of the child so they won't be ready to do the operation till August but that is fine with me as I can prepare myself mentally. They will use my eggs for 2 couples.
Anyway, I went home with a sore arm and cried for 10 minutes - I think the blood letting must have released some emotion too. Plus I was thinking about my dd's as I had to tell the hospital about their births as part of my family history.
I rang H and asked him to bring DD4 home. He said our mate Jon was staying there and still in bed (in the afternoon!) and as soon as he woke up, he would bring DD4 home. He said maybe 1 hour.
I figured that means 2.
He was over 3 hours later, but he did phone me to let me know he was coming (I didn't answer his call - he left the message on my answer machine).
When they arrived, I opened the door and he said 'You look terrible, are you okay!?' (I did look terrible, I felt really washed out and emotional). There was surgical tape strapped to my arm so I showed him that and told him that is why I don't feel so good. I don't think it was really that, but I thought it was a good excuse and wouldn't wreck my DB'ing. He asked me what happened so I told him about the 7 vials.
He said he couldn't stop today because he hadn't fed the kids and ex-ow isn't cooking anymore since I told her. She is letting him do more stuff for them. They weren't with him so I guess he must have left them with her.
He then apologised to me about being so late and said Jon is a lazy arse who didn't get out of bed till 2pm, so I guess they must have been drinking last night. I told him it was okay. I know Jon myself, he's a nice man at heart so I wasn't bothered.
DD4 was wearing this jumper I bought her for Christmas which he never returned and I'd asked him loads of times and didn't get anywhere, now suddenly, I get the jumper back
Then he said 'You haven't sent me those work emails.' I was AMAZED as he usually shows no interest in my work and I have to ask him to do stuff, now he's reminding me because I didn't do anything! I told him I would email him documents this evening. I am still amazed by this.
He told me to take it easy and rest and then he went.
