I like what Lou said - take all of our advice with a grain of salt, as you are the one with the clearest view of you and H and the DDs. Feel free to tell me to blow it out my 'ear if you don't appreciate my take or presentation.
I get the importance and underlying message of your college courses now. Thanks for the explanation.
I see a bit of myself in H. He has overfocused on your past vulnerabilities, instead of seeing how he contributed in part to them being expressed via his own insufficient support/love of you. Sounds like a lot of attorney talk during the D may have exagerrated this even more.
My take? He really is quite pleased to see you happier, healthy and to see your success taking off with your writing and business, but may not know just how to connect with you in the present. Maybe it'll take both of you letting go of the past more fully and focusing on today's and tomorrow's R goals.
Is the book still pulling you back there, Jo? Or are you done with the tough parts? I wonder if H sees it as an immortalization of his mistakes/'sins' - and sees it at least in part as threatening.
