Wow, I see a bit of myself in your H. I also read disagreements with my W as arguments when she was merely disagreeing. I do have to say that she used way more emotion at times than I did, so it was easier to misread it that way.
Quote: He was also very scared of me leaving him even though I never would and, for instance, if I was tired with the kids (we had 3 kids under the age of 4) and we didn't ML for 2 weeks, he'd ask me if I still loved him.
It sounds like he was a attracted to a good-looking, intelligent, independent woman. The good part of that was that his W is good-looking, intelligent, independent...The bad part was that his W is good-looking, intelligent, independent... This can be very threatening to a guy, especially if the R gets a bit rocky. This was the case with me, and didn't get 'better' until I began to focus on myself and build myself up rather than try to control her and keep 'us' safe.
The ML part sounds like most men, including me! Its just how we are hard-wired or programmed to feel loved.
You seem more at peace and more philosophical in your more recent posts. I hope some of that is true, as you've had a rough couple of weeks.
Its just how we are hard-wired or programmed to feel loved.
