Quote: This time around though I am trying to implement a no sex boundry until he agrees to some type of proper M, otherwise I could see us doing this dance forever. I thought if I did that, he may realise he has lost me physically (which he couldn't cope with long term, he is always raving about how much he loves my sex) - so then he might panic and think I have to commit or I've lost her, type of thing.
Sounds like a good plan Jo.
About the kids and your involvement in their activities, maybe take that a little slower when the next time comes up.
I am thinking when OW moves out, Andy might might need you more and will ask you to become more involved. That is if he does not have other people/friends to take up the void that OW and her family if fullfilling now.
Quote: It's really difficult to go through this - that's why I need all of you on here.
Jo, you have cyber support, that is for sure. The BB and the books help most of the time. Sometimes real, live support is needed. I know the feeling of "what do I do next?" too well.
