Minor success - I feel like I have achieved something small.
Linda - I could KISS you!
Well, today H was 2 hours late and dd was whining about 'where's my daddy?' so I rang his home number and it was ex-ow. She said she didn't know where he was, but then started enthusing because her daughter who is 2 years younger than me, has just given birth to a baby girl this morning weighing 8lbs, 4ozs and she's named her Lucy. So there she was telling me tons of stuff about her new granddaughter and I complimented her dd on the choice of name - my dd3 is called Lucia and her name gets shortened to Lucy all the time.
We were chatting on the phone for ages about her new grand-baby and my Lulu and I told her congratulations. I have never heard the woman so excited, I am so pleased for her.
Anyway, by the time I put the phone down, my dd2 (aged 7) was knocking at the door. I went to let her in and my dh (dick head! ) was there. I was dressed in the suit just like Linda said and the first thing he said when he saw me was 'You're looking smart today.' I said 'Yes' and didn't say anything else. He said 'Have you got a meeting or something?' I said 'Yes' and still didn't say anything else!
DD2 went off to use the bathroom and while she was in there I commented to H that since he took the chocolate out of my printer, it doesn't work anymore.
He said he'd have a lot at it and pushed passed me without being invited in. I was a bit taken aback thinking hey, I wasn't supposed to let him in; it was just a remark.
He looked at my printer, asertained the problem, and fixed it. He told me where to get cheap ink from.
DD2 picked up my dream diary which was on the sofa. This is strictly 18 rated so I told her to put it down. Don't want her reading that!
They asked if they could play in the garden so I said yes.
While they were outside, H and I discussed the continuing computer problems and he said that I should have bought the computer from a small local company instead of a big company.
I said 'You mean like you!?' (he sells computers). He said 'yes' and we both laughed.
He noticed my Kazaa Lite Resurrection list of music and he said 'Ah, you've been downloading music off the internet!' (smiled when he said it). He was the one who told me about Kazaa so I guess he liked that.
He told me that he and our girls are going on the radio on Monday to talk about home ed. I won't listen to it though, that would really upset me.
Then I went into the garden to check the kids and he got up to leave. I rearranged the contact so he has dd4 next weekend as well instead of the weekend after, as I have a counselling appointment and HIV test at the IVF clinic and they don't want her there.
I didn't tell him the reason why I switched his weekend. He accepted it anyway and asked to have dd4 until 3pm Monday instead of 11am as he wants to take her to this lunch. I agreed.
I kissed dd4 goodbye and managed to kiss dd2 as well (I have a problem with physical contact since I lost custody, I am afraid of getting too close), so this was another small victory for me on the mothering front.
H said
'Have a nice meeting'.
I said
'I'll try'
and then they left.
YES YES YES!!!!!!!!
I mean, the R is not yet any better than before but at least we are talking, right??
Jo.
PS: I'll try to remember not to let him in next time.
