Faithandhope, There is a section in DR where Michele talks about coming home from a trip and knows H is gonna be grumpy with her..she chooses to "act as if" things were going good and it changed the outcome of the meeting. I don't know if that will help your sitch. You may want to read on act as if in DR. Patiently do the baby steps. I liked your input on my thread about zero expectations. I know it will help here. Then no matter what you can have a good day!! midwest
Words and the use of them are so important. There are so many ways to say something. I have been trying to be so careful as to what I say and how i say it. When Fred speaks to me, sometimes he is so rude and so gruff, it just brings me to tears. Most of the time he apologizes, but if he were just a little more thoughtful, it would help so much. Maybe my timing is poor, i am working on that, but he tells me all of these wonderful things, and if I question anything, then I am blasted. I just want a little reassurance. I feel like I am living with a gun to my head. The guns name is divorce. If I do not make enough changes, or enough progress, I will be divorced. I am sick of the pressure. I wish he would make some changes!!!
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
