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[BeingMe]

FaH, it's good to pray about your situation. I found that praying helped to calm me, and give me a different perspective.

It took quite some time for my H to notice any changes in me, and even more time for him to respond in a positive way - I am talking several months. DB'ing takes time and patience.

It sounds like your H is very confused, and uncertain of what he wants. So, you must be absolutely sure of yourself, and take good care of yourself. Realise that you can control only yourself, and no-one else. Try and avoid R talks, unless he brings it up, and then contribute only minimally - mostly acknowledge what he says, and that you will think about his concerns, etc. I think having a R with a single woman, and visiting her is a huge thing, and I wonder how he expects you to respond to that? Talk about crossing boundaries. How would he feel if you went off to visit a male friend?

I'm at work, but will check back tonight, but thought I would respond to your thread. I know what it's like when one gets little or no response. Stay strong, for yourself and your children, and ultimately, for your H (because he is weak now).