My H had the same complaints - that I didn't tell him how I felt, or compliment him, or touch him a certain way during , etc. Now I do, and he gets all shy - rather cute! I tell him specific things, like he has a sexy butt, or that I love his muscular arms, and that they make me feel safe when they are wrapped around me. These are huge 180's for me.
I think you need to do what feels right, and what works. Sometimes, I come up with shocking things, that I have never done in our 20 years together, and it sure puts a smile on his face. I find it all rather exciting now - we have a new M, really.
Good luck!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
, etc. Now I do, and he gets all shy - rather cute! I tell him specific things, like he has a sexy butt, or that I love his muscular arms, and that they make me feel safe when they are wrapped around me. These are huge 180's for me. 
