Quote: He told me that we need to begin our relationship from the very begining, on trust. He said we are in the "pre-school" stage, learning to get along and learning to like each other again.
So... in that pre-school stage is permited to have a best friend at the same time, but by your words a post behind, it seems that best friend wants your h to be her something else, a BF??? At the same point, it is so difficlt to rewind to pre-school stage with all moments yet lived. It is like being again child knowing you will not like cats, or draw, or.... i think is better to think in a new M... a better R, conserving what was good in the past
Quote: Sometimes I wonder if it is worth all of the effort on my part when he is the one making all of the bad choices. Sometimes it is hard to put on a happy face, when my heart is breaking and I just feel so lonley and so rejected by him. We haven't been intimate in 5 months, and I hate sleeping alone in my bed. He told me that he can't have that type of relationship with me at this time in his life. That we have to work on other areas, mainly the trust issues.
Until last sunday i had almost 5 months without no intimacy at all with my h... and he sayed it was a reflextion aroused from his Therapist C, that was better not to settle false hopes or expectations by the intimacy... I played and torture him a little being sensual and he cant avoid me after 4 months...before that i used to follow his settlement, no intimacy, no sensualism... so, i was wrong, i didnt invite him... i didnt initiated anything, i only play a different game. Yes, i really know how we can feel, how rejected we feel and thats terrible... but think at this issue as his problem... not yours... try to think at him like a ill person, a poor man that is passing a great crisis... is not you... you are doing great being more atractive... go ahead... and good luck Andrea
