My husbands new issue is his privacy. he is neurotic over it.I am not allowed to ask questions of any kind, and I am told things only on a need to know basis. I am not allowed to enter his apartment without permission, or to answer his phone.In 2 weeks he is going to visit a "friend" for a week in California. She is recently divorced and I am totally against this visit. I am keeping my mouth shut, I have already said my piece. I have asked him if he is love with her, he said no. They are just best friends. Their relationship is very secretive, and I have spoken to her a couple of times and she told me that my husband owes me no accountability, and is his own free person to choose what he wants to do.I know I need to let him get whatever it is out of his system, but it is hard. He told me that he feels safe with her, and that they have a connection and understand one another, but he is not physically attracted to her. Today he was actually very kind to me, I was an emotional wreck, having a PMS moment, and he was very sweet and very encouraging. He told me that we need to begin our relationship from the very begining, on trust. He said we are in the "pre-school" stage, learning to get along and learning to like each other again. I take this as a good thing, but I am also learning to take one day at a time. He is very moody, partly because he recently lost his job, and had to move back home. I think God threw a wrench into his big plans. Sometimes I wonder if it is worth all of the effort on my part when he is the one making all of the bad choices. Sometimes it is hard to put on a happy face, when my heart is breaking and I just feel so lonley and so rejected by him. We haven't been intimate in 5 months, and I hate sleeping alone in my bed. He told me that he can't have that type of relationship with me at this time in his life. That we have to work on other areas, mainly the trust issues. As a man, do you have any advice? He told me he still loves me, but wants to work on a friendship with me for right now. Should I be encouraged, or is this the major blow off?
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
