After 20 years, my husband moved out. He decided that he wanted to get on with his life, and that he was fed up with the way things were between us. We have 8 children, and he was insistant that he would not stay in a marriage for the sake of the kids.He was not interested in councelling. He moved out and is renting a room from a friend. Since the separation, he comes over daily, and spends time with the kids, or helps me with my business. I have been in therapy for almost 5 months and have made so many changes. I am happier and feel really good about myself. I miss my husband, but I am practicing the DB principles. I have stopped nagging, stopped asking questions, I do not call him or email him.He has not filed any paperwork yet. I have been praying alot as my husband really does need a reality check. He will be turning 40 this year! He insists it is not a MLC. He is seeing a therapist, who thinks he should go with his heart, and even gave him referrals for a divorce lawyer. Anyway, my husband lost his job a week ago. Now all of his plans have to be put on hold, as he has no income. Last night before he left he hugged me,something which has not happened in a very long time, we have not been intimate in 5 months. I feel encouraged, but have learned not to get my hopes up. He has made positive comments about the changes in me, and I just respond with a thank you. I think I am on the right track. The waiting is the hardest part, being patient is a killer!!! Keeping my mouth shut and letting things go, is getting easier. I hate sleeping alone, and hold on to hope that he will eventually return home. I do believe that he is thinking about things, I just wish he would stop being so prideful about everything.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
