LostGal, Thanks. I'm trying. I think H notices and appreciates the difference. But it's hard. I worry about backsliding. And it's still the case that it's easier for me (than for MrDoglover) to sometimes believe I'm just "too tired" or "too preoccupied".
And then there are the times when I try to initiate but he's not in the mood - it even happens that way once in a while.
And given that both of us are probably older than most of you (he's eligible for senior discounts anywhere and I'm 7 years younger) there are a lot of preconditions now.
So "the mood" is probably less important than scheduling everything right - he has various meds he's on, some of which make viagra necessary and some of which can't be taken within 4 hours of viagra so it's all more complicated than just getting in the mood.
And then there's the added lube that's necessary for me and my electrical "third hand" to jumpstart my motor.
And he has a bad back and I have trick knees so there are positions we can't do.
So it's easy for the mood to be interrupted by "oh I forgot to get ..." (I keep everything close at hand now and nobody else comes into our BR) or "ouch that hurts" (not much to do about that - laughter helps, and prevention).
But it's more fun for me if I get in the mood so keep those suggestions coming.
Doglover
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This response of yours to another was really great. I wish i wasnt so wishy washy irl and could make up my mind. I keep hoping the "guy in my head" will be the guy I'm married to. HUGS
