The "straw" - more porn

[MJontheMend]

I really feel for you on the porn issue. I've had my own troubles with my H in that area, though luckily nothing like the worrisome intersection of teen porn and a teen daughter in the household.

I have two thoughts for you that might make you feel better. It's easy to feel like you don't measure up if you allow yourself to think that you are in direct competition with the porn stars because they are younger and more physically attractive (according to our lame cultural standards) than you. What if, for instance, you found that your H was looking at porn that featured nothing but tatooed Asian women? Would you even consider comparing yourself to these images?

Another thing to consider is that really your H's behavior is quite pathetic. I think a porn addict is the ultimate example of someone who is "living a life of quiet desperation". I mean maybe for a few minutes at a time he can maintain the fantasy that he is a stud making it with all the hot young chicks but then there has to come that moment where the reality that he is alone in the bathroom with his pants down, hiding out from the real woman who cares for him, making "love" to a computer-aided image for which he just spent $6 that went into the coffers of some wealthy porn-pushers, who are happy to enrich themselves by treating their customers with the lack of respect they deserve if they choose to purchase images of young girls.