And the pictures don't try to touch back...H dislikes intimate touching. So, while he's eyeballing those teens doing the BJs; it would be impossible to me to offer the same without touching. He actually complained in counseling about me wanting to touch him.

He has serious issues BUT not in his eyes. Dad wasn't there - now he's on the same status as God. I can see H eventually living with dad when dad retires and moves back to our state (a different city). Now he drives here 3 weekends a month for gambling. I can picture them livings as buds, sharing magazines and flirting with young girls. Mom is very cold - she kicked dad out after years of drinking/disappearing and raised 3 kids alone. I think H admires his dad for never being forced (by mom or court) to be responsible. Life is all about fun NOT being responsible.