Sorry you are in a major funk. Can you step out of your box? Sometimes I get so trapped in what I feel and think I see that I can't see it any other way and when something happens to throw me out of the norm, I see things from a whole different perspective.
Losing Breeze was a big change, put looking at D's actions in a totally different perspective for me. Broadened my perspective on life. It doesn't stay, comes and goes but now I know it is out there!
That probably didn't make sense but how about a hug {{{{Slowly}}}} and wishes for a wonderful weekend.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
What do you want NG to do? Are your expectations reasonable? Just a few questions to get you thinking. Don't know if I am helping but wanted to show support.
Hi Slowly, your post touched home with me as I feel exactly the same way. When will H do something? We were doing so well and communicating better, but the last few days it just feels like we're creating the marriage we had before the a. It sucks, I know. I don't understand why sometimes they are just happy with peaceful (when there's so much under the surface), when they could have so much more if they just tried to come out of their shell a little and contribute to the R. I get so tired of being the one who changes the dynamics too. I mean, he's the one who turned our lives upside down, shouldnt they have to help make it right side up again?!
Sorry for venting on your bb.. I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone. I'm planning on doing something nice and positive for ME this afternoon.. gonna get a pedicure and forget about the R and turn off my cell phone! Whatever effort you'd take to get him out of his funk, maybe you can spend that time and energy to make yourself happy right now? Do something just for YOU!
Slowly, Hi! I'm tossing in my 2 cents for you to ponder.
Quote: I know, its up to me to change the dynamics. But darn it, when will he do something
Slowly, did he talk to you after getting back from his trip to area OW is from? I would want to know if he saw, talked or anything with her. I would be unhappy until I knew these answers. Is this part of what you are in a funk about? I really hope this is now a nonissue. However, men are from Mars and if he forgot to ease your mind about this, it could be an issue. Don't relax your boundries because the hurting is worse the second time around. Take care of Slowly. Build up yourself so you can give to NG again. Are you spending QT with him? I am giving you advice I didn't follow myself and wish I had...be true to yourself Slowly, it is important. Enjoy the holiday Midwest
