Quote: He notes that biologically men are programmed with the fight or flight response while women developed with the ability to self soothe.
Boy, have I witnessed this in spades. I get over conflict SO much more quickly than S. does - he carries it with him for days, weeks... he's always told me he was a "slow boat to turn around," but I never really paid attention until I read Gottman's book.
NG sounds like he sallies up just like most other men with genes.
An aside... is there anything else you could show interest in, rather than cars? It seems contrived to me.
Good luck concocting a surprise. I just bought theater tix (the RSC doing Euripides' Hecuba) for S. and me as a surprise date for tomorrow night - or do you mean a getaway?
