Hi kellyagain - Yes, the KLA tapes are great, aren't they? NG is actually doing very well. The way I look at it, I had many months to get to grips with ow. He was still in a fog. He seems to be surfacing from it slowly but surely. Like Michele and Martha said, I just need to validate and be there - OK with me. She is, surprisingly, no longer a sore point. Maybe because I'm comfortable that I've grown and can see her for the sad person she is, with help from NG?
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maybe you can think of 3 or 4 other ways to share intamcay that would fill that hole if you cut out these conversations, then you will have even more intimacy then before. without any of the hurt and confusion a talk about OW may leave you with.

The great thing about having lived in the knowledge of the a for 18 months is that we really do not talk about it much now. Maybe once a month. I don't even think about it some days (yay me). I guess this is what time does, it allows us to put these traumas into perspective, providing we have other things in our life.

Yesterday I came home late from work, which does not happen often. NG had been out running, which was such a delight. He has been putting on a bit of weight, not been able to shake a ghastly cough, and I've been worried that he could be getting slightly depressive. I see the run as a positive sign, that he is sufficiently interested to do something to get fitter. And as I was changing, he came and had a chat, and one thing lead to another Can I say just how wonderful it felt to be wanted, wooed ?

Today, we are both working from home, and have dinner plans with some good friends. Just enjoying the moment here, Slowly


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