Me again. Glad to hear your getting some traction, that's awesome. On a scale of 1-10 (10 being the best ever) where did you rank your R before DB, and where do you rank it now? How long have you been DB-ing?
I'm trying hard to DB too and have a question for you all. I had my 3rd phone session with a DB coach yesterday (I recommend this highly) and my wife is getting ready to go with a friend to a Dude Ranch in AZ. I told her that if she's going to run off with a cowboy, to at least call me and tell me she's not coming home - my tongue in cheek way of saying don't fool around while gone. To my knowledge she has never strayed since we've married, but I get very nervous about this trip. Of course I'm trying to do the right things - very supportive of the trip, I'm not clingy, I'm not telling her not to go, I booked all the flights/car.... But still I'm nervous.
OK, now the question. My DB coach suggested I create a reason for her to really really look forward to coming back home.
My question is what can that be????
Her love language is one where she values converstation, and Recreational Companionship. She's not touchy (damn), does not like gifts, and is not into praise. She's a bit of a free spirit. One thing I've considered is buying a Harley as we both like to ride, but have not bought a bike due to time constraints with our kids.
Knowing all that, can all of you make any suggestions???
SLOW - You sound like you're in a great place, keep up the good (and hard) work!
Do what you've always done, you'll get what you always got.
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