Quote: NG has said many times that we need to start from level zero, and I'm seeing the wisdom of his approach now. I need to shed my baggage from the 'old' relationship, and start a new.
My husband as said smoething similiar. He has told me at different times that if we were going to work this out and stay married he felt we needed to "start over". He said this long before I realized it myself. Then one evening I finally realized that I had to accept that my marriage and relationship with my husband were dead and that marriage and that relationship would never be revived again. That the only chance I had of being with my husband again was to start over completely.
My husband and I have since had a conversation in which we both agreed that if this is to work out, we both do not want the relationship we had before.
It's hard to wipe the slate clean and not remember the old stuff, but that's what we need to do if reconciliation is going to work.
