Slowly, I heard a great word a few months ago -- "Awful-izing". That's when we assume the worst possible outcome.

A big breakthrough for me was learning to ask myself, "Are you awfulizing? Stop it." So, I learned to stop. It was not an immediate stopping! But, recognizing awfulizing was the first step.

Acknowledging that you don't have all the facts, that you have no idea what the outcome will be, that you aren't in the other person's head sounds like a control freak's worst nightmare! But, actually, it's helped me have more free time and has helped me feel calmer and more centered.

Hope all is well,
Michele