Hi JV, thanks for the reply. I needed it. I try to let it go about the time frame but it is really hard. It seems that when i get anywhere close, that H says something about it and here i go again!
What i ment about OW getting mad is, how in the --- is he going to leave there to come back when it seems that he (just a feeling) is afraid of how she is going to react to what he does.For instance, H has always loved to ride horses. He use to be able to do this all day long and want more. Now he is afraid to go as SHE will get mad! What the xxx! No, i have not been pressuring him about coming home, but yes i can see that he is probly seeing me as waiting for him to come home. When i do things that show that i am GAL, then he seems to get annoyed that he can't find me or i don't answer the phone and i get the 3rd degree from him about where i was and what i was doing.
Yep, i'm with you about the kids. I don't want them to feel that here he goes again with another broken word, but this is something for him to deal with.
Ok, no questions about him coming back. I have always been this way in out M. I let things go and let people walk over me and just take it so that is why i was wondering about being more absertive about what i want. I guess the time is not right yet.
Again i can see what you mean about feeling like pressure.No, i am not taking any of what you said in the wrong way. I am so glad that you took the time to try and help. Since i came over here, i haven't had many visitors. In fact i had thought about going back to MLC again. I feel stuck in between. Don't know if i belong here or there or where.
Thanks once again for the help and visit,Jv. Please come again. Anyone else have any more suggestions? Sonni
