Quote: ... I guess i wasn't thinking who i was talking to and asked him if he could pick up the belt for me... He finally said that he guessed that he could, but i could since that he really didn't want to. So i told him not to worry about it, i would go and get it. By then he was not happy anymore but would not let me just go get it. I sure didn't want to ruin his mood. I didn't know that it would. I am always going out of my way to do things for him, so what is the big deal?
Something similar happened the other day between my H and me. I agreed to do something for H the day before then I changed my mind when it came time to do it. My day turned out to be extremely busy, so I asked H if I could handle the favor he asked of me differently. H didn't like that and became very upset.
So....you asked H to get the belt for you...he finally agreed...but then YOU changed your mind after H AGREED to do what YOU asked for.
He may have seemed like he didn't want to do it, but he DID agree.
Here's some advice that was given to me by Sage (she is wonderful)-- if you agree OR get H to agree to something, stick to it!
And next time if H seems like he's bothered about it, just be sure to be pleasant and say something like, "Thank you. I really appreciate it," or "Thanks! You're really helping me out!"
JV
Valerie
"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination." ~ author unknown
