Hi everyone. Thought that i might try posting here. I have been mostly in MLC since i started. Here are my stiches. I'm sorry but i don,t know how to link them.
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H has been gone since first part of Nov,2004. We have been married 20Yrs and together 22. We have 2 kids, D 19, S 18.I have 2 older kids which H has always treated as his. The younger 2, both still live at home. He dropped the ILYINILWY about 2 1/2 yrs ago and has been in MLC before that and since. He moved in with OW the day that he left and has been with her since. She is an old girlfriend from when we were first dating.
Well i hope that i have covered most of it to start with. H has told me that he will be coming back home in a few more weeks. He is living in a house that some friends rented to him rent free for fixing up the place. He has done most of the work, but there are still some things that he needs to do before he can leave. He told me this about 8 weeks ago, and at that time he said it would be 4 to 6 weeks.He did start doing a few things back then, but when he said it again about 2 weeks ago, he really started to fix things up there. He also asked our S to help him move his things back when he was ready so i know that this is really coming.
Things have been getting worse and worse between OW and him. He tells me a lot of what is going on over there and he is seeing that it is not what he thought it would be and she is not what he thought she was. So time will tell.
I usually have many phone calls with him everyday and i usually get to see him for lunch. It seems that since he told me that he was coming back, i have seem less of him than before. It might just be his job and where they have been having him work at which hasn't been close to the house.
I am worried that i will have a hard time knowing what to do when he gets here, as I know that he will still be in MLC when he does come home. He has not said that he is coming home for the marriage, just that he is coming home and this is where he wants to be. I try and not ask questions or put any pressure on him, just the "as if" attitude. I want to ask him so many things as we all would like to do.
It seems that it is taking so much time for this to happen.Sometimes i question weither he really will but then i think that he would not have told son that if he wasn't going to soon.
When i first started here, i saw some of you over in MLC. I hope that things are going good for all of you.Please stop by to chat when you can. I don't feel that i can give much advice as i am new, but i sure can give moral support!
I know that we can not make them go any faster, but am i doing something to make him think that he can just go on with things as they are? I probly already know the answer to this, but have a hard time getting things thru my head at times.
Sometimes i want to tell him not to call or come by until he is ready to leave from over there, but i do know this is not right either.Ok guys, help me get thru this before i open my mouth and say something that i will regret. Thanks, Sonni
